Stress Reduction
Based on a random sampling of clients, prospects, colleagues, friends, family members and community members, I believe that stress is increasing across the board. If that's true, perhaps it's due to the on-going bad economic news, the number of layoffs, the corruption in Corporate America and the constant underlying worry about terrorism. In any case, stress can get in the way of accelerating results. When an entertainer or an athlete becomes overly stressed, their performance becomes erratic and falls below par. You need to reduce stress in order to optimize your performance.
First, identify things that increase stress:
OVEREATING, OVERDRINKING & OVERWORKING
Some people overeat, overdrink and overwork in an attempt to fight their way through the things that are creating the stress. Unfortunately, this increases the stress level even more. Even without becoming an alcoholic or workaholic, this cycle can slow you down dramatically and rob you of the opportunity to flourish in your career and accelerate your organization's results.
DUMPING YOUR STRESS ON TO ANOTHER PERSON
This is the dangerous cycle of seeking out some poor victim and unleashing your stress on them. You commit a virtual drive-by shooting by pouring all of the things that are stressing you out on to some one else. The ironic and sad thing is that many times people dump their stress on the people they love the most. (I know I'm certainly guilty of that trait.) Unfortunately, rather than releasing your stress in this manner, you multiply the stress in your life. Suddenly you find yourself going back and forth with the other person sharing stressful events until you both are worse off than you started. Scott Peck once wrote, "The best thing you can do for a poor person is not to become one yourself." At first I thought I read it wrong. Then I disagreed with him for a long time. Finally, I understood his point. If you become poor, you can't be of assistance to another person. If you become stressed out, you cannot help another person reduce their stress.
Second, identify ways to reduce stress in your life:
EXERCISE, EAT WELL AND TAKE A NAP
Take a break and go for a walk, or do some situps and pushups, or get into a volleyball or basketball game. Let your body get away from the mental work and just relax. If you pour twenty minutes a day into exercise, the rest of your day will be more productive as the stress in your body is reduced. Stay away from fried food and extra rich desserts and huge amounts of bread. Take a thirty minute nap in the afternoon. (That's right. Go out in your car and put the seat back for half an hour. Trust me, it works wonders.) Give your body some rest and some nutrition and start to feel the stress fall to the wayside. Reducing stress accelerates business results. When a person becomes overly stressed, their judgment weakens and they may end up doing crazy things.
READ SOMETHING INSPIRING
Recently I went on a doozy of a seven-day tour that went from Fenton to Chicago to Fenton to Tulsa to Fenton to Boston to Fenton. While in Boston my body and brain were fried, and I was stressed. As I walked through the airport, I stopped by the bookstore and found a book called, Living A Life That Matters, by Harold Kushner (Anchor Books, 2001). Its main point is that a successful person is a good person who makes a difference in the lives of other people. What a stress reducer! You and I don't need to be perfect or world-famous or make millions of dollars to be a success. We simply need to be a good person and make a difference in the lives of other people. The week before that I read a great interview between Oprah Winfrey and Ralph Lauren in the Oprah magazine. What a breath of fresh air from the constant negative hammering in the media.
BE A KID AGAIN
My three-year-old daughter, Sarah, does not have stress in her life. She laughs, cries, naps, runs and tells stories. She's a kid. That's what you need to act like to reduce the stress in your life. Stress is manufactured within us. No one can insert stress into our lives. Some people in the most horrific of situations have managed to remain free of stress. How do they do it? They focus on the outcome, they concentrate on doing what needs to be done and they attach no extra pressure to the activity. Some people call it being in the "zone" or "in flow." Call it what you want, but the idea is to focus on the activity and the outcome and not on all of the bad things that could happen if something goes wrong. I've found that when I laugh, my one-year-old son, Ben, stops crying and starts laughing. Maybe we should all pause and laugh more.
DO WHAT YOU LOVE
Before I started my own business, I invariably called in sick two to three times a year. For some reason, I just didn't feel well. Five years ago I started my own consulting firm. Now I enjoyed my other jobs, but I love being an entrepreneur! I haven't had a sick day in five years. Coincidence? I don't think so. I think when you do what you love to do you get reenergized quicker. Do something today that you love: read a book, fly a kite, volunteer to work with children, build a house with Habitat For Humanity, train for a marathon, do whatever you personally love to do. Even one day immersed in your favorite activity can make all the difference.
In times of great tension, you need to protect yourself so that you do not become stressed out. By protecting yourself from excessive stress, you do a great deal to help other people become more successful.
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Elimination Of Business Myths
Business Myths are the widely accepted beliefs for improving results that have no factual basis. These myths rob workers and organizations of enormous amounts of time and money. The key is to identify them and avoid them.
One of the oldest business myths is that the key to job security and promotions is for employees to do exactly what they're told to do and never question their boss's decisions.
Nothing could be farther from the truth!
Here are four Primary Reasons To Push Back Your Boss:
For The Organization's Sake: Organizations exist to generate better results than the members could ever create working completely by themselves. For an organization to thrive, it needs the best possible solutions. Therefore, every employee must offer their best ideas for improving results in the organization's highest priority outcomes (HPOs).
For The Boss's Sake: Bosses get paid to deliver results. Effective bosses know they need ideas beyond just their own thinking. They understand the value of employees who willingly challenge their decisions and thought processes.
For The Employee's Sake: When employees do things they don't really believe in, they lower their self-esteem. As their self-esteem goes down, they see less value in themselves and ultimately lessen their contribution to the results of the organization. To be successful over the long run, employees must speak up and explain why they think a decision is the wrong one and what would be a better alternative.
For The Customer's Sake: Customers simply don't care what the boss said. They want better results from that product or service. Consequently, every employee must offer ideas and challenge decisions in order to constantly improve the customer's experience.
When you push back your boss, you don't even have to say, "No." When your boss gives you a new project that you think is of questionable value, you could say, "I would be glad to do that. Here are the things I am working on right now and the desired outcome for each one. Which of these would you like for me to stop doing so that I can do this new assignment? The reason I say that is because I want to make sure you get the quality of output you're looking for on this new project." Or you could say, "I'd be glad to consider doing that, but how does it fit in strategically with where we're going as a department?" Get your boss to be part of the thought process, and work with him or her to see the positives and negatives of the new project.
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The Bar Raising Process
One of the fastest ways to accelerate results is to always make sure that every project builds on the lessons learned from previous projects. In order to accomplish that, I suggest you answer The Bar Raising Questions periodically both during the project and after the project is completed.
The Bar Raising Questions
- What was our original goal?
- What have we actually achieved?
- What did we do to achieve our current results?
- What worked well?
- What did not work well?
- What lessons did we learn?
- How can we apply these lessons next time to improve our results?
Your mission, if you choose to accept it, is to accelerate your organization's highest priority desired outcomes as well as your career. Now is the time to have a need for speed!
As a corporate advisor and teacher, Dan Coughlin works with executives, business owners and associations to accelerate organizational results and individual careers.
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